Relationship Woes
Every once in awhile, I receive a call from someone wanting to talk to a psychic. I’m intuitive, but don’t claim to be psychic and don’t feel we should ever rely on someone else to “tell us what to do” which is often the way those conversations start.
I offered to do a coaching session. The young man wanted to know the difference between a psychic reading and a coaching session. I explained that coaching would help him make a decision for himself and asked what he was concerned about.
A relationship. Should he choose Woman A or Woman B? And he immediately started telling me a little about both. After about 5 sentences, I stopped him and told him he needed to put his thinking cap on the head above his shoulders instead of the one below his waist.
From his brief conversation, he was looking at these women from only a visual and sexual nature. The older woman wore tight clothes and was sexy. The younger one looked great in a bikini and wore one around the house. When I asked which one he liked conversing with, he hadn’t really “talked” to either of them and yet he just HAD to make a decision NOW.
And … they were cousins and spent a lot of time together. Can we just say … THAT’S PLAYING WITH FIRE!!!
I suggested he chose to spend time with a potential partner after several conversations where he truly listened to what the woman was saying and was able to see what her heart was like … pretend it’s a phone call and you can’t see the person. Is this someone you might want to spend the rest of your life with?
This conversation also takes place with women as the caller. I can’t tell you how many times women have asked for relationship coaching and wondered why things fell apart after a few months when the newness of their sexual encounters wore off … the relationships were based solely on physical attraction rather than on a connection with the person as a whole and the didn’t have anything in common or want similar lifestyles.
Can you talk to this person every day for a month if you are stranded after a storm with no electricity? Is this someone you would choose as a friend if there was no intimacy? If you’re already intimately involved, do you even like this person? Or is it only the physical benefits that you enjoy?
This whole conversation took less than 9 minutes (yes, I looked at the phone when the call ended). He was a little shook up by my straightforwardness … but that’s who I am. I told my kids that if they had slept with someone, they better be able to tell me their first and last name, where they’re from, and the color of their eyes. If you don’t at least know those things, you probably don’t know enough about the person to put yourself in the extremely vulnerable position of being in bed with them either.
I’ve had these same conversations with myself, so I truly understand the inner dialog that can take place. If you’re struggling with a relationship, I’ll be happy to schedule a coaching call to help you see what your options are … then the choice is yours. Let me know how I can help. You can Contact Me Here.
Blessed be.
