Transform Your Life
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Cultural Programming or Dreams
There was a time not that long ago when most folks were entrepreneurs. Many were farmers as we lived in an agrarian society. Communities were small and shops locally owned. Children went into the family business or learned a different skill/trade and went into business for themselves. People, in general, were doing what they felt called to do. Then industrialization came along, and people were needed for the factories. Students were taught from an early age to sit and follow directions. Creative thought and expression were often thwarted and those who didn’t fit the prescribed mold were admonished. There wasn’t much room for individual creativity or dreams. Corporations grew and…
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Instrument of Change
Disappointment comes from expectations … typically our expectations about the things others should do or accomplish. Yet we have no control over the actions of others. We can influence others, but if we attempt to control them, we are manipulating, coercing, extorting, etc … and it’s really not our place to control anyone other than self. Yet we often find ourselves expecting others to make choices we think are best for them … ignoring what they want or feel and often placing our happiness in jeopardy due to their action or inaction. It’s often a challenge to accept someone for who they are when they are disappointing us. Yet we…
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Living or Existing?
And so it goes. Day by day, year by year. It’s life. Do we LIVE it or do we EXIST in it? Do we say things like” “I’ll be happy when _________?” or “Life will be great when ____________?” These thoughts keep us focused on the future and are messages to self that life can’t be enjoyed or satisfying until those things occur. Even from week to week, we tend to have this perspective as we say things like “living for the weekend”. As we are so intently focused on getting to the weekend, we miss the LIFE that happens during the other 120 hours. Do we not eat and…
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Mini Habits
Today I’m sharing a post from Tiny Buddha. I read it and thought it was great. And with New Year’s right around the corner with all those resolutions that often go unmet, I figured it was a perfect time to share it. It will give you something to think about as you close out 2013 and begin 2014. Check out the post below titled “How Simple Mini Habits Can Change Your Life.” I think you’ll be glad you did. Related articles How Simple Mini Habits Can Change Your Life
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The Imperfect Path
So many times in life, we find we are at a turning point with no idea about which way to turn. We try to think about all the scenarios that could take place for each of our choices. We want to “get it right” and we labor over the PERFECT plan. We fear change, we fear mistakes. We forget that we can change direction and even make a U-turn. The path to our destination is filled with twists and turns, stops and starts. It is not perfect. It cannot be perfect … for it is through mistakes and self-correction that a path appearing imperfect is made perfect … perfect for…
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Your Unscripted Life
I’ve been posting to a blog on and off for several years. Most of those posts have been pulled together here on this site and I will regularly be adding more. I’ve felt almost called into the profession of life coaching for many years. As I’ve hungrily sought to find my own passion and purpose, the direction for my work, my mission, has slowly come into the light of day. Just as I almost desperately wanted to know which direction to go with my life, I see and hear others seeking the same. I’ve been helping friends, family, co-workers, and students to uncover themselves for as long as I can…
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Jump Start
The “heart” of anything sets the tempo or pace … it doesn’t matter if it is the heart beating inside our chest or the “heart” of an organization or mission. The way we think and feel about something determines whether we are passionate about it. We become excited and this excitement fills our heart with more desire and increases the beat or tempo. As long as we are encouraged and motivated, the beat is strong and rhythmic and we keep moving forward. Yet there are times when we may feel like we are getting no where or like the spark of passion is gone. Sometimes it’s just a lull in the…
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Security of Consistency
As I sit and watch the fire in my fireplace after Christmas Eve dinner, I wonder what the new year will bring. I think of my Grandma Niss – we just had her Tator Tot Casserole for dinner. I think of my mom – I have her Cranberry Relish in the fridge for tomorrow’s dinner. And I think of my Grandma Conro – I’m planning Cinnamon Rolls for breakfast (not from scratch like Grandma made, but Pillsbury does a pretty good job). My family … the kids, my granddaughter, and me … we don’t have much tradition right now. Maybe that’s what is missing for me. With tradition comes a…
